Sometimes young men forget that we're not one of the guys. It's in the language they use, the things that they do, and the stories they tell. Sometimes they forget that she's a girl they're dating, not a bro or just someone they're hanging with. What may be acceptable in the dorm or among friends just isn't on a date with a girl you just met.
Some of it is common decency, like don't set up a Skype date and then text her five minutes past the time you arranged and tell her that you're still an hour away from home and can you call her later. Some of it is superficial formalities, but opening the door for a girl means you're taking this shidduch dating thing seriously. It makes her feel taken care of when you walk her to her door. If you must tell her about your friend that manufactures collar stays that each read a day of the week, leave out the comparison to other articles of clothing that might display the day of the week on them.
She doesn't want to be greeted as "Hey, Girl!" We don't live in the 'hood. Be respectful and don't "what's up" her as she walks into the room in which you're engrossed in conversation with her parents. Smiling and acknowledging her, or even a "hello" is okay, but "what's up" rubs us just a little the wrong way. Off color jokes or stories should be avoided too...self explanatory. Certain words or topics, although they may be how you talk with the guys, just aren't becoming with a girl. Don't say "chick" or tell us how quick your shave/shower took you. After you've known her for a bit you can reassess what's fair game, but even then, please treat her like lady, Meghan Trainor style.
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