When a F and T Collide

Similar to this post, this one is about using personality typing to understand the interactions between opposing personality types. While Myers-Briggs doesn't define who people are, it definitely explains how different people see and interact with the world.

A developed and self-aware individual can get along just fine with any personality combination; however, Fs and Ts often collide when they aren't as aware of what their driving force is and how people are dissimilar. (The Feeling/Thinking dichotomy is about how people make decisions.)

Ts typically shield their emotions and do not easily share them. They approach everything from a logical standpoint, overriding their feelings and feelings of others with rational thought. Fs follow their heart and are expressive with their emotions. Fs are driven by a different kind of logic, a thought process that puts their feelings and emotions, and those of others, first. 

Ts often approach dating and relationships as a set of goals; it's a rational process for them. They will often abruptly "cut their losses" if things don't logically make sense to them, giving them a "ruthless" reputation. They sometimes forget that there are a myriad of other facets through which a situation can be viewed, and they are known to stick with their pragmatic perspective. Ts have a hard time understanding Fs emotional needs (if they are even aware of them) and/or their emotional expressiveness (especially if said F is also an "Assertive" E). 

Fs are totally committed to The Relationship and seek to connect to and gain closeness to people from the outset. They take relationships seriously and go to great lengths to understand and protect people's feelings. To a T, a F's need for connection can seem pushy or overbearing, because Ts don't get where it's coming from and disclosing their feelings doesn't come as naturally to them.

While a F might approach dating by trying to connect emotionally with his/her date, make decisions about moving forward in the relationship based on what s/he's feeling, Ts are more likely to see it as an intellectual operation, checking off boxes and making the choice to move forward based on practical aspects.

Because Ts may not understand a F's needs, may not be able to cater to them, may think that Fs are needy, and may be unable to see things from another's perspective, Ts and Fs don't usually do very well in a relationship unless they are consciously aware of how they experience the world differently and make an effort to be mindful of the other's needs.