Sometimes the terms we use, while to those "in the parsha" (see below), they make perfect sense, they cause others to scratch their heads trying to understand their meaning. This is by no means an exhaustive list, but a small compilation.
"In the parsha/on the market" –– This is someone on a (sometimes exhausting) journey to find their soulmate using the shidduch system.
"The system" –– This refers to the formalized process of finding one's spouse through a set of designated protocol generally used by Orthodox young men and woman.
"Shidduch resume or profile" –– This not to be confused with a Tinder or Bumble profile. It is a brief written summary of a guy or girl navigating the shidduch market given to potential suitors to help them in assessing one's relevance. Its form and content may vary.
"The shidduch crisis" –– This "crisis" is the panic people feel thinking about how "the system" might fail them, and they'll be still single at age 22. Some people attribute the failings of the system to the age gap or education gap between eligible fellows and ladies in the parsha.
"Redt" –– This popular verbiage means suggesting a shidduch idea (a guy or gal's name as a potential match) to a party.
"Looking into/do research" –– Refers to the arduous process of finding out information, relevant and non-relevant, about a potential match. May include calling friends, teachers, relatives, or even employers. Fingerprinting, background checks, and even Apgar scores are fair game to help determine eligibility.
"Gave a yes" –– After the investigation is completed and relevance is determined, this means someone has agreed to go out with the potential suitor.
"Got a yes" –– This means someone has agreed to go out with you.
"In the freezer" –– This refers to a guy who is currently not yet actively on the market because his yeshiva does not allow him to date until he has learned by them for a set amount of time. He may, however, have a long list of suitors waiting for him to complete his sentence.
"Long/short term learner" –– A long-term learner means the bachur is sitting and learning in yeshiva without a predetermined end date. In most cases this means his wife or wife's family (or his own) will support him financially for an undetermined amount of time. A short-term learner means the bachur does not plan on staying in learning long-term. He may or may not "have a plan."
"Someone with a plan" –– This refers to someone (generally a guy) who will take responsibility for parnossa. Perhaps he has less emuna than the "learner," and believes he must get his hands dirty to support his family.
To be continued...
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