Nothing about him really jumps out at me. There isn't really a definite reason for me to say he isn't for me, but I'm just not excited about dating him. Do I have to agree to go out with him just because he wants to go out with me?
So obviously, I know the answer; it's no, I don't have to date him, but sometimes I feel like "saying no" to someone who "says yes" to me can be me messing things up. Maybe he doesn't stand out on paper, but if I met him we would hit it off. Who knows? Usually I think if a resume is coming across my inbox with interest from a guy, I feel like we should already be ballpark. Honestly, sometimes we're not even in the same league.
Perhaps it's harder to be a guy with resumes inundating you all the time, not knowing who to look into and who to say yes to, especially if a shadchan sends you five resumes at once, but at least you know that likely a lot of them are no shychis.
I used to take every "yes" very seriously and make serious inquires about each guy, but now I think I've gotten to the point that unless I haven't dated in awhile and I'm bored, if the idea doesn't sound promising/appealing, it isn't treated equally. I just can't afford to go out with everyone. The cost is too high; it weighs on me emotionally.
There are enough people who I date that I think going into it that it could be something, and it ends up being a complete waste of time/energy. Why should I go out with the person I pretty much know before will be a futile attempt? I'm just setting myself up for failure.
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