Don't be a backseat driver! It can be hard to navigate as it is, especially while trying to maintain a conversation with someone you met seconds before. Someone telling you where to go, advising you when to merge/slow down/etc. is unpleasant and annoying. If his driving makes you nervous, just pay attention to what's going on in the car or make an effort to enjoy the scenery and ignore his driving as much as possible.
Don't ask a girl to go dutch. It's accepted for the guy to foot the bill. If you can't afford her dinner, don't take her out to eat. As the fellow, generally you decide what happens on the date. If you don't want spend that much money, pick a cheaper activity.
Don't talk about other guys/girls you've dated. This one requires thought and common sense. It isn't necessarily a topic to be avoided at all costs. Your date knows that you've dated other people, just don't make it your main point. If a story or point comes up in conversation, it's okay to mention. You just want to stay away from telling long stories or making other guys/girls your focus. Talking about other people you dated on a first date can be disrespectful, and/or it reflects that you may still be emotionally attached to an ex or have a lot of baggage. Not a good topic for a first date!
Don't eat with your hands or pick your nose. Duh. Table manners. Personal hygiene. Respect for yourself and the person you're with. Okay, so there are certain foods that are finger foods, and those are exempt. It's not okay to eat a cookie with a fork. You're fine to eat fries with your fingers. I'm not sure about sushi. Master proper chopsticks usage or don't order sushi on a first date?
Don't ask personal questions. If it's a first date and the first time you're meeting someone, it's not okay to ask about his/her broken engagement, family scandal, or deceased family member. It's insensitive and bad manners. I'm sure it's an important conversation, but wait until you get to know him/her first. Building rapport and trust is essential in every type of relationship.
Don't spend the whole date talking about yourself. As in any conversation, dating should be equal give and take. Be interested in your date and ask him/her questions about himself/herself as well as provide answers to his/her questions. No one wants to hear you promote yourself for an extended period of time. Natural back and forth. If your date isn't saying very much, maybe it's because you're not engaging him/her or not letting him/her talk. Try asking him/her a question and/or shutting your mouth long enough for him/her to speak.
Don't make fun of yourself or put yourself down. It's a first date; the person doesn't know you from Adam/Jane. Whatever you say about yourself sticks. Well-placed humor is great, but be careful with self depreciation before someone knows you. S/he has no context to understand the joke. It can come across like you think badly of yourself, and s/he may jump on that bandwagon.
Don't answer a call/text/email. It's rude and insulting. It means that whoever is on my phone is more important than you. If you need to take out your phone for a specific purpose, that's fine. Don't take it out because you're bored; if you're at that point, go take a break and reorient yourself, or just take her/ask to go home.
Don't answer a call/text/email. It's rude and insulting. It means that whoever is on my phone is more important than you. If you need to take out your phone for a specific purpose, that's fine. Don't take it out because you're bored; if you're at that point, go take a break and reorient yourself, or just take her/ask to go home.
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